Like I said, its because you deserve it

What is it about spending a few dollars on ourselves gives us pause? We work hard all day, we come home and toil with our kids. We make dinner, pay bills, watch TV, play silly games. We go to sleep and do it all again. Don’t we deserve nice things every once and a while too? If we can satiate our guilt too, all the better! Ya dig?

When do we have time to have our needs taken care of? Maybe a spa visit, a weekend getaway, or the money to buy a new toy? Not for the kids, but for ourselves? Hmm, been a long time, ehh.

We make sacrifices every day for our loved ones and we are truly blessed to be able to provide. However, we have to remember that we need treats too.

I love the treats that come from the heart. Like smiles, back rubs, kisses. They are all helluva good. I love cool material stuff too like fast cars, gadgets, fine clothes, and great eats. Face it, even love costs some dough.

In these economic times, those material things come few and far between. It’s ok, but I still need to treat myself (and my wife) from time to time with something cool. I just have to pick my spots. And by that I mean parting with my hard earned dollars for purchases that are not just cool but sentimental and functional as well. I need the biggest impact for the least amount of coin. Give me the best bang for the buck to get that ooooh factor, some thing that’ll last. Can’t be frivolous with short pockets.

Stuff is stuff. We buy it. We own it. We constantly buy more stuff. Usually, soon after we spend money on stuff, we either forget about the initial thrill of it, or we buy more stuff to fill the void of the moment we opened the package.

Some stuff is different. It’s the heartfelt stuff. It’s the stuff that has heart and is touched by love. It comes from our kids on Valentines Day, Mothers or Fathers Day. It might not be all that useful but my kid made it so I love it.

It stays with us because of the feeling we have for our loved ones. It can be a thing of beauty. It can be a truly useful gadget. It can be a future heirloom. Usually, the stuff that matters hits our senses on multiple levels and the feeling lasts long. That’s the stuff!

Remember when we were kids, we couldn’t wait for a holiday to open our presents. We would be extra good for months so our parents would buy us that thing that would complete us. We got it. We played with it for awhile and forgot about it.

But when, Dad gave you his flight jacket, or his pool stick, or mom gave you her favorite piece of jewelry, it was different. Grandma knitted a quilt or Grandpa gave you the rods you and he went fishing with. That pottery sis made in college or that funny card your kid did on the computer. It meant something more than the thing. It had history, soul, love, struggle, pain, happiness, and a sense of belonging to something bigger, a symbol that contained value, a keepsake.

Those symbols were the stuff of family, love, tradition and care. All wrapped up in a pneumonic device called a treasured object, a real gift.

We took the time to marvel at it. We hold those things dear to this day. Think about some of your most treasured things. What makes them special? Were they handmade, pretty, nostalgic, came from someone we love?

So all that to say, stop mistaking rigor of life for vigor of life. Stop and smell the roses and not just the coffee. Take time to spend time and money on a gift for yourself, or if you must, on a loved one.

You are going to spend money, cause thats the reality we live in. Give something that has heart, soul, history, artistry, meaning, a treasure. Something that makes a mark.

Fancy that, we can spend money on ourselves and not feel guilty about it. It’s eco-friendly, its made with love its pretty, functional, unique and helps others. We deserve it. We earned it. We love to anticipated looking at it, wearing it, playing with it.

Again, like we were kids, but with the wisdom of age comes the love of value and history. It’s a piece of love symbolized in a thing. Get that thing!

My father always told me give the gift of yourself. If you can’t do that give the gift that you love yourself.


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